Dear Family and Friends,

According to my calendar, our beautiful daughter Danice will be gone for us 1000 days on October 4th this year. Danice has been, and continues to be, sorely missed. One thousand days may not seem all that long if she is not your child or unless you hold some form of guilt in conjuction with her "disappearance."

Danice enjoyed life! She enjoyed special occasions that most of us take for granted. Consider this, since January 9, 2002, Danice has missed:

3 of her birthdays
3 of her baby's birthdays
3 of each of her parents birthdays
3 Mother's Days
3 Father's Days
3 Easters
2 Thanksgivings
2 Christmas
and 2 New Year's

Many of you can relate to just how difficult these occasions can be in the shadow of tragedy. We realize we are not the only ones in this valley that have suffered hardship due to the loss of a loved one. Tragedy has stricken many of you reading this---and our hearts and our prayers go out to you!

We just want to thank all of you who have put Danice in your prayers and kept her in your thoughts. We ask that you continue to pray for Danice, her babies (Joshua and Kaylie) and her family. We also ask that you continue to pray for the investigators that they do not forget that this case is still unsolved. We especially ask that everyone continue to include in your prayers, a request for those who know something concerning Danice's disappearance---to please come forward---so we can know the truth as to what has happened to our little girl.

It goes without saying---our little girl is still missed very much! And we (all) love her.

This case is not cold! We have not-and will not-forget! The reward for voluntary information leading to Danice-or a criminal conviction is $10,000.

Lovingly,
Rod and Judy Day
Del Norte

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By Jacqui Flint

I sat on the bus thinking about everything I have to do. I looked over my list for the upteenth time that day. My list of things to do seems to get longer every day. I try to fill each minute of the day with a task, mindless or not. I have to keep going. I tell myself not to stop until it is time for bed. I wake before the sun rises and go to bed past the 11:00 news. In the last year I changed careers and made it through graduate school. My list of things to do seems to change on a consistent basis. I am usually able to scratch everything off and start a new list. One item that seems to transfer from list to list is "update website-write about Danice." It is written exactly in those words, dash and all.

I sit and reflect on why this item has stayed on that list so long and I realize it is because I do not know what to write. I do not know how to express sadness so I choose to forget that it exists. It seems that I can deal with everything in my life, but the loss of my sister. I am good at staying busy so I can avoid any feelings I might have about my sister being gone.

I try to remember what Danice looked like the last time I saw her and I see her smile. Sometimes I have dreams that she is coming back. It seems that writing her name too many times makes it apparent that her disappearance is real. It is hard to believe that after two and a half years, I have not faced that yet. I am not sure I ever will. When I see her name written down, it is there to look at over and over. Thoughts and sadness are easier to cross out.

Finding Danice is not something I can cross off my list of things to do. That fact is not something I can control. I can only think about how much I miss her. I can only think about how my family lost a sister, daughter, granddaughter, cousin, and niece two years ago. I can only think about how much I miss her. I can only guess how long I will stay busy and keep my mind occupied in order to avoid tears and thoughts of an ambiguous loss.

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